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Irma’s Ten Top Tips for Loneliness

No man is an island, but sometimes there are times when we feel like it. Here are my favorite tips for handling such times:


Especially after exercising, don’t neglect to stretch. Negative emotions cramp up different parts of the body leading to restricted breathing and movement. The net is full of good advice. A good stretching session makes you feel like you had the most wonderful night’s ….. sleep.


There is something about bringing focus to the voice box that lightens the soul. If you’re not a singer, try the numerous karaoke clips on Youtube.


Take tender care of yourself by bringing your thoughts to paper. It’s a way of harnessing the most sublime human process in your favour. Try a diary or a blog.

Put up a few cuddle toys

Humans are wired to recognise faces. Seeing faces around you is extremely comforting. There is a soothing side effect to caring and cuddling. Your subconscious won’t mind to be tricked.

Include nature

When you’re in nature, things (most of all you yourself) fall into perspective. Take a walk and don’t come back inside until your soul swings with the rhythm of nature.

Manual work

Worries and fear can be released by using our hands. Create, craft, manufacture and feel the satisfaction. Make it a game to use your resources at home to avoid a store bought solution.

Establish order

Clear thinking is achieved on a light-hearted frequency. Messy environments or unclear schedules cloud the soul. The same goes for personal habits. Taking care of your surroundings and yourself serves as a balance to compulsive worries and obsessive thoughts.

Cut out sugar

Sugar is highly addictive and accounts for mood swings. Replace sweets with fresh and dried fruit. Dates are my favourite. I’m not joking. Lonely days are days for ZERO sucrose. Also experiment whether wheat and/or milk affect you.

Light candles

Fire is a natural booster. A flame represents life itself and is a mirror of yourself. Do a fire meditation, by sitting in front of a candle enjoying the gentle warm light.

Take mental snap shots of happy moments

In a happy and relaxed moment, direct your thoughts through all the parts of your body and remember the feeling. You will be able to recall these later.


A wee word of wisdom: there may be number of reasons why you are lonely. But believe you me, it’s not a disease, it’s a valid form of human existence. To maintain dignity in a lonely situation you might have to do some mental support work. These tips won’t work for you, if deep down you think that you are just tricking yourself.

What do we look for in relationships anyway? In my opinion we try to recreate our true state of being one with everything. Feeling separate is a delusion, truly, we are never alone although we might feel that way. The first human endeavor is to create convincing evidence of being embraced by the universe. But tell me which is better:

believing that we are lonely and frantically looking for proof that we aren’t


believing that we are one with everything and lonely feelings are a product of being stuck in a limited point of view?

In either case, solutions are found on another frequency. Try any trick that snaps you there.

“ego” is Latin for “I suffer”


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Made a discovery

When importing documents sometimes you end up with soft returns at the end of the lines, i.e. an arrow down andsoft return symbol left, like the one that’s on your keyboard. In openoffice, if you want to turn those into proper (hard) pilcrowparagraph symbols, use find and replace, under options, set “regular expressions” and type in BOTH sections– ta taaa– \n Oh the wonder of it all, myodt document will format after all.

Boom-de-yada, Boom-de-yada, Boom-de-yada, Boom-de-yada,

Not by bread alone …

there are a few other things that make bread taste better:

…. with the most important question being: where is the gift in this situation?

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